coupla things

over the passed few weeks, some things have been said - and i don't know where to put them or how to process them - so i will start here.
the funeral. he didn't want me to go. didn't understand why i thought i should go. didn't need my support.
i expressed my concerns for a friend having trouble in her marriage over children, how she wants them depserately, and her husband no longer does. her husband is focusing on his career, and doesn't feel that he wants or can handle a child. she has had one miscarriage already and has been told it may be unlikely that she can have children. i was concerned because the last time we spoke, she was building resentment towards him. HE said we can relate. and reminded me of how i do not want children and he does.
then yesterday, as we were talking about another friend's pending visit - to see a band and a new boy - he asked me if there was someone i would see everytime i went to seattle on business.
and all at the same time, my new little kitten harrasses his cat, keeps us awake running through the house and climbs all over us at 5a every morning.
what am i supposed to think about all of this? do i sit down and talk to him about it? how do i approach it? am i holding everything in for too long?
how can he still think that there is anyone else? how can he continue to send me signals, pushing me away, and act surprised when i seem distant.
i guess that could be how i bring it up to him. just say something like look, i've been getting mixed signals from you, don't know if you are aware of it, but here is how these things are coming across to me...