Tuesday, August 26, 2008

party disaster

so of course the party was a disaster. and not for the reasons you would think. the ex had nothing, well hardly anything to do with it. it was pretty much all me and my inability to behave responsibly in social situations. i had a mom moment earlier in the day and kept it inside. then another 2 mom moments at the party and walked away from people mid-sentence. i was too uncomfortable with people i had not seen in close to a year, people who knew me with the x, who don't know about me and the current, great guy, so i was really just crawling out of my skin the whole time. alcohol hit me too hard, i got loud and in people's face, thinking i was being funny - which apparently i was not. then the fucking crazy bitch cornered me, saying all kinds of CRAZY stuff in the middle of the party, me 3 drinks into it. completely inappropriate - and crazy psychotic behaviour - b/c she is crazy and psychotic. saying shit that just wasnt at all true. i didn't need that either. i wanted to be with Him the whole time. holding his hand, being introduced as his girlfriend. but i wasn't. i was just another person to meet at the party, then on my way. it was awful. He felt awful. He got angry with me. He told me about all the things He doesn't like about me. i don't know now if we are breaking up or what. he posted that he was SAD on myspace, the crazy bitch just sent me a text asking me if "anything happened" and if "he was ok" because she's been trying to reach him b/c his profile said he was "sad" and therefore she is "concerned"
SHE is a big problem with us. she is crazy - he knows it, i know it, everybody knows it, but he still entertains her. i called her crazy from day one and never let her close to me. she says i betrayed her and i'm turining him against her. i don't have the power to do so, or by all means i certainly would! the thing is - he doesn't call her on it. he tries to reason with her and talk her out of the crazy. he lets her go on and on.
he told me not to talk to her anymore. that he's not going to talk to her, unless she is being happy and pleasant (which isn't very often, b/c all she does is bring drama) i don't know if i believe him. i don't know if he says one thing to me, then pats her on the head and tells her that everything is ok.
i fwd'd him the text - thinking that i wanted him to know that she was bugging me. sharing what i have to deal with from her - but now i wish i hadn't. i should have just deleted it - not responded to her at all (which i still won't do) and never let him know that she contacted me. THAT'S control! THAT'S more like it! damn! i shoulda done that! THAT'S the kinda thing she would accuse me of doing, too. you want to see me play like that - watch! you want me to turn him against you - watch me do EVERYTHING in my power to do so. cunt!

Friday, August 22, 2008

summer hours part deaux

here it is....4.52p - not one fucking work related email to my inbox, that wasn't internal - meaning - from one employee to the whole fucking company - since 4.20p - and that was just to tell me that nothing was accomplished. really? you're paying me for this?!? i'm not good at making up shit to do. i'll just sit here and fuck off. my myspace friends are boring. no emails to gmail, except from psycho passive aggressive jennifer about tomorrow's party and cake. (but that's an entirely different blog)
i should go upstairs and bullshit in my boss' office - but we aren't really good at bullshitting. he's kinda shallow and kind of a freak. not much in common, really. he's going to the dude's costume birthday party tomorrow - which could be weird. but whatever. it's going to be weird anyway, with or without him.

this is so fucking stupid. even HE isn't sending any emails!

lame

Summer Hours

OK - so i finally work for the side of the business that actually gives time off for the holidays...week between xms & new year's - the day after thanksgiving, you know - the time that the FREE world recognizes as holiday time.
now, if i could just get the head of this company to "grok" summer hours. east coast business partners either leave at 3p on fridays or take the entire day off. in this economy, a lot of companies are offering their staff fridays off in exchange for at least one additional hour of work from monday thru friday. west coast business partners are doing the same, and in some cases, let staff leave between 2 adn 3, since their east coast counterparts are already gone.
part of the problem is the owner of this company is a freak of a work-a-holic. he takes his crackberrry to the bathroom with him! it's ri-god-damed-diculous! he was on vacation in hawaii for most of the past week and sent emails EVERYDAY! take a fucking break, dude. plus - he has a staff of people, mostly young who think it's ok to work 10-12 hour days, or older staff that have wives and family that apparently don't care if they are not home EVER and take care of everything for them, ie: cooking, cleaning, feeding pets, school meetings, etc. there was even one guy who MISSED his 5 year old twin girls' birthday party, because he had to stay in the office from 7.30a to who knows how late. (obviously passed the 5 year old's bedtime) SHAME!!! so most everyone is working 8+ hours a day, therefore there is no leverage to campaign for 1/2 fridays or god forbid the whole day off.
now, i have company in town from chicago. by 2p today - it's gonna be dead as a doornail for me. no calls, no emails, no RESPONSES to emails for sure. i'm going to be sitting here with my dick in my hands, counting down the minutes til i can leave at 6p.
fuck!
i'm just sayin'.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

I gotta tell ya

i've been with this guy for a while now. the x doesn't know. it started out as an affair. he was a mutual friend of the x and i. we've managed to keep it secret from him for quite sometime now. he would like to remain friends with the x, but the x is really not that great of a friend - contrary to what the x's little mind thinks of himself. there are many things the x thinks about himself that are painfully misguided - but that's an entirely different blog all together! this guy is 6 different ways of awesome! not that the x didn't have his awesome moments from time to time, but the x never produced much of anything with his awesomeness. the ex is talented, but his no idea at all how to harness that talent to get what he wants. this guy does! i think i would be a good example of that. he wanted me. he got me, whether he expected to, really wanted to, or not. he got me and i held on. never EVER have i found myself so satisfied with a partner and lover. the x was a horrible lover. no stamina. infrequent as all hell - which is what really drove me into the arms of another. the feeling that i was sexy, attractive, and not frigid and broken, unable to be satisfied because of MY issues. this guy can go for hours. and then go for hours again. several times a day. everyday of the week if we wanted to. i think there has been one or two times that we have gone 5-7 days in a row! it's quite astonishing - at our age - to have such a sex drive. i hear it's normal for women at my age to be at their peak - but men? don't they peak at 20 or something like that? he's strong. he carries me through the house. he's confident. he's a man. the x was a boy. is a boy - a 44 year old boy.

oddly enough, their birthdays are

Monday, August 11, 2008

is this thing on?

so i wonder how this works....i mean, i know i'm screaming for no reason - but is anyone really reading? not that there has been anything all that compelling written.
are there people out there who just sift though blogs looking for something to read? what kind of lives do they (you) lead?

i'm getting my taxes done today. (ugh) i owed from 2006 so i figured i'd put off 2007 as long as possible. i used to always get $$ back. but changing jobs, cashing out my 401k (because the x NEVER had a job & couldn't pay his half of ANYTHING) then losing the job and using the $$ put aside for taxes to pay rent (as previously mentioned, the x with no job...) left me owing for '06. funny enough, i had put enough aside prior to losing the job to pay off the taxes owed AND for the processing of the taxes. sadly, by the time tax time came around, that money was gone.
happily! so is the non-working x.

it's not that money is so terribly important. but knowing there is mutual efforts applied and contributed to day to day living, really makes a difference. see upcoming blog...

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

random

Who has your heart? He does
Whats your name without vowels? scrmngbnsh
Who was the last person to call you? warren
What is the last non-alcoholic/alchoholic beverage you had? coffee/vodka
Would you consider yourself to be spoiled? not really
Did you sing at all today? no
When is the last time you cried? saturday
What's the last text in your inbox say? omg I know!
Are you scared of spiders? TERRIFIED!!
Who were you with last night? the dude
What do you think about lil wayne? he’s a lil silly
Do you believe in love? Yeah.
Have you done anything you regret in 2008 so far or messed up? I mess shit up all the time. I try not to regret, I try to accept responsibility and move on – try to learn from it
Do you miss anyone? as always, yes I do... Sigh.
Do you curse a lot? like a sailor!
What was the last thing you ate? strawberry
Where is the last place you were out of state? north carolina
What color is your hair? dark brown w/blue black low lights! (shimmer!!)
Have you ever smoked with your number one? I don't smoke – he’s quitting tomorrow!
I am so PROUD of him!
Who was the last person besides family that was at your house? jennifer
Are you too forgiving? uh...i don’t think so
Ever had a sleepover with the opposite sex? I am not 12
If someone liked you, would you like for them to tell you? definitely.
Do you have trust issues? I do
What are you currently doing? this
Who do you like to spend your nights with? him
Do you like school? it was ok when I was there
Do you want someone you can't have? nope – I got the one I want!
Think about the person you currently love; who knows about something bad you guys have done? kdoh
Who last left you a voicemail? I left my phone @ home. So I don’t know
When did you last talk to your brother or sister? um…maybe last Friday
Should you be doing something more productive right now? oh yes.
Have you ever punched a guy? not in anger
Have you ever gotten in a car with people you just met? sorta
Ever just randomly texted someone? not in a while.
How many ex's do you have and how many would you like to get back with? I have several, and no desire to go back to any
Last night you felt? full from the Indian food I ate
Who are all the people you have text messages from in your phone? chris, mostly, some lacy…Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? shockhound
If you're being extremely quiet, what's it mean? Could be a few things. First is I'm too pissed or sad/upset for words, I'm tired, I have nothing to say...
Have you ever kissed someone and never saw them again? my mother
How are you feeling right now? eh…not so good. Headache as usual and a bit sad
Last time you laughed? maybe chuckled a bit today – no belly laugh tho’
If you could seek revenge on someone,would you? and who would it be? too many to mention
Last argument? lame
Have you ever stripped for money? once
Last nap? not in a long time
What are you doing Saturday? dunno…
Excited about anything? not really
Is there someone you'd like to fix things with? I guess
What's a happiest time you've had in the past week? hmm…I’m always happiest when I am home with him
What did your last text message you received on your phone say? I don’t have my phone with me today. Left it charging.
If you could push one person off a mountain, who would it be? aw c’mon! only 1? Are they guaranteed to die when I push them? I’ll start with Brian.
What are you listening to? a vacuum! I know, extremely unpleasant
If someone likes you would you want them to tell you? uh huh
Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries? some
How do you feel about the person who texted you last? again – phone not in hand
Do you think you are an argumentative person? at times
Who was the last person that made you cry, why? him – cuz I love him
Have you ever had a difficult relationship? you’re kidding, right?
Have you ever stayed in a hotel? duh
What is in your pocket? lint
Where would you like to be right now? home
Ever told someone you loved them and not mean it? no.
Ever been told you were loved by someone who didn't mean it? probably.
Most important part of a relationship? communication
Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? I hope so
Can you honestly say that things are running smoothly for you? I cannot
Would you rather trade in your ipod or computer/laptop for 10,000 dollars? gimme the cash!!How'd your day go, by the way? not so good overall
Which do you prefer on your toast: butter, jelly, peanut butter, or Nutella? nutella is gross
What's something you are determined to accomplish by the end of summer? financial stability?Do you pour everything out when you feel genuinely guilty of something, or do you keep it in anyway? I keep a lot in
Are you a Gatorade drinker? ew
You see a shooting star, do you make a wish? it’s usually gone by the time I try to think of a wish
Are you a big fan of snowstorms or thunderstorms? thunder, please – I’ve never seen snow.
How do you handle your hair once you finished washing it? depends on time and weather
Do you have relatives living in a different country? yes
Do you turn on the lamp when it's bright out? depends on what I’m doing
Have you ever been addicted to WoW or SC? huh?
When it rains, do you go out and start to dance? if it ever rains here – yes, I would definitely do a little dance
Do you get carried away with things? at times, yes
What's something you're sure that won't change about you? my love of all things sparkly! (I must have been a crow in a previous life)
Who first texted you yesterday? he did
Who did you last kiss, when and why? him – cuz I heart him
What is the last thing you spent money on? food
What was the last thing you cried about? him and mom
Who did you hangout with last night? the dude
What's your mood right now? eh
What are your plans for the weekend? um…Dr. Dog on Friday (not interested)…um…maybe organize my storage unit – I keep going in there to get something & tearing it all up!
What annoys you?name it
How many hours did you sleep last night? roughly 6.
Last person who texted you, what did it say? dude: “U will be happy to know this is very painful” (dude is getting more work done on his tattoo
Have you ever cried while in the shower? yup
Do you miss the person you fell the hardest for? not yet
Does the last person you held hands with mean alot? yep
Do you wish you never dated someone you dated? try not to
Could you go a day without eating? yeah.
When was the last time you talked to your number 2? briefly over the weekend
Do you know anyone that smokes pot? sure
Do you still talk to the person you last dated? “dated” no – I can’t remember anyone I just dated. I talk to my ex rather infrequently
Have you ever kissed anyone whose name started with a J? yeah
What are you listening to? people talking upstairs
Is there someone you want to fight? nah
Has anyone ever told you they're in love with you? yeah...
Do you believe in true love? uh huh
When was the last time you were disappointed? when was the last time I WASN’T!
Are you playing hard to get right now? no
Do you have sex alot? uh huh
Do you miss your past? nope
When it comes to the opposite sex, what's your "type"? Confident, strong, passionate, creative, tall…
What are you doing tonight? birthday dinner and celebration
If you're single, why? I'm not.
Ever been in an ambulance? yes
Would you hug your ex again? eventually
Is there anyone who doesn't like you? uh huh
Miss the person you have a thing for? not yet, we’re still having the “thing”
Is there anybody you wish you could be with right now? yes
Has a girl ever seriously punched you? my sister, maybe the last time when I was 15 or 16
Have you ever dated your friend’s ex? not my friend’s ex, no
Do you know anyone in the military currently? no
What's the last thing you put in your mouth? water
Do you believe ex's can be friends? they can be
How many girlfriends or boyfriends did you actually love? all of them
Would you ever lie to get an ex back? no
Have you fixed friendships with anyone lately? no
Would you be friends again with all of your exes? no
Does your father approve of you dating? he’s dead, he doesn’t care
Do you tend to listen to your friends when they tell you that a boy is bad for you? No.
Who are the third and eighteenth texts in your phone from? good god I have no idea!
Do you still talk to your latest crush? yup.
What is one emotion you are feeling right now? unsure...
Have you told anybody you loved them today? yes
Do you miss anybody? yes
Any plans for tomorrow? more work
Do you find the opposite sex confusing?? sometimes...
What do you want most right now? to go home
Is your myspace profile private? yes
How many true friends do you have? a few
How many piercings do you have? 10
Have you ever written a love letter? yes
Are you a morning person or a night person? neither, really. I like nite time cuz I sleep
Do you remember your dreams? not often
Did you have a thing for anyone you hungout with this week? yeah
Do you go tanning? nope
Whos bed did you last sleep in other than your own? my mom’s
Does the last person who put their arms around you mean anything to you? yup.
Who has your myspace password? just me
What were you doing at 11:00 AM? IM
Do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you can talk to 24/7? I think so
Are you ticklish? yes
Last person that texted you mean anything to you? yes
How is your hair? clean today!!!
How is your heart lately? aching
What makes you mad? people who abuse animals... They can just die a long painful death, I'll help...i’ll help, too Lanore!
Do you wear the hood on your hoodie? if its cold or raining
What's the last thing you ate? animal crackers, (not Nabisco, so they weren’t as good)
Last hug? him
Are you sarcastic? quite
Do you think relationships are ever really worth it? I do
Do your parents really know you? dad, never – mom, better but neither do now.
Do you feel like you've got some growing to do? don’t we all?