processing anger

i have so much pent up anger for the (most recent) x. (the one that's still alive) i feel like it's holding me back. everytime i go to my storage unit to look for something, only to find it's not there - i'm reminded of the the things he has taken from me. i am reminded that my life has been reduced to a 5x10 space, 1/2 a closet, and boxes in a garage. true, EVERYTHING about my life is better without the x - but there are things that eat away at me. he has a home, fully paid for. his mother left him money. he has a whole house full of furniture, and brand new appliances plus THREE storage units filled with the same. furniture that i paid for. appliances that were mine, even a microwave that was a birthday gift from my mother, a television that was a christmas gift. let alone the thousands of dollars he owes me. he'll never be man enough to stop and think - i should at least make a gesture and give me something towards what he owes me. and that makes me angry! dude says i seem to want to make the x pay - to teach him a lesson, to have everyone know what a loser he is and walk away from him. sometimes that's true. sometimes i just feel bad for him. i would like it if he woke up one day and realized something - anything - about our relationship. i want him to accept responsibility for its demise, as i have. i know i could have communicated more - if only he made me feel safe enough to do so. i was as patient as anyone could ever be - he had all the time and freedom in the world to figure out what he wanted to do. when i needed him to do for me - he did not. that's when my patience ran out. that's when i had to check out. and i am happier now, i have found the man of my dreams and he satisfies me completely.
i should get help - find someone to talk to who can give me professional advice and the right tools to process this anger. i know by simply acknowledging the problem i'm having is the right step in the right direction to getting "better' about it. i think i need a few more tools - to get me to a better place. so i don't think of what i've lost anymore - because i know i've gained so much. i guess it's the little things that always get to me.